Cinnamon Prime is a Mindset Coach with 9 years of experience. She has coached hundreds of people in just about every area of life to help them achieve health, self-love, wealth, relationships, business success along with many professional and laymen Athletes to win competitions. She grew up as a competitive swimmer and gymnast with a fascination for the human body and neuroscience. She holds a degree in Biochemistry, and coaches the whole human with the Paleo Lifestyle as the starting template for nutrition, fitness, with Mindset as the center of her whole approach. She has successfully shifted the Mindsets of hundreds of clients, leading them to have true peace of mind, freedom from their past constraints so that they create futures of their design. She loves God and believes the human spirit is the key to true freedom and that having a healthy body & mind allows us to deliver upon our destiny here on Earth. She considers it a true privilege to coach her amazing brothers and sisters on Earth and wakes up feeling blessed everyday. In her free time, she studies, is writing a book, lifts heavy things, plays her guitar, paints, and hangs out with her amazing 14 year old son. You can find her at her website, on Instagram and Twitter, and on Facebook.
Howdy! I don’t know about you but I’ve noticed that the word mindset has become a big buzz word over the last couple of years. I’ve been a Mindset Coach for almost a decade and I’m thrilled that the awareness of mindset is gaining traction. Before beginning this series of guest posts here on mindset and health, I want to assist you in deciphering exactly what mindset is to clear up any confusion that may be out there.
First, I will clear up two common misconceptions about Mindset.
- “Mindfullness is the same thing as mindset”. Another buzz word that is often mistaken for mindset is “mindfulness”. Mindfulness is a state of becoming and being aware. “Aware of what?” you may ask. It is an awareness of anything and everything really, from being aware of your body sensations, your own thoughts, your current emotional state, your behaviors, and your environment among many other things. Many people find that practicing yoga and meditation are helpful in attaining mindfulness and I agree. Mindfulness is a very useful component of shifting a mindset. Think of mindset as the operating system of your smart phone and mindfulness as one of the most important aps in it. Becoming aware is important but it’s not the golden ticket to a mindset shift. Spoiler alert: There is no golden ticket there, the path there takes time, work, and in most cases, support from someone outside of yourself.
- “Mindset just means it’s all in your head”. When we speak about mindset, it’s not to say that circumstances are not real or having an impact. Some people REALLY have things going on. People have bones break, autoimmune responses, property get stolen, so on and so forth. When we look at a mindset, we look at how those circumstances are being perceived and responded to.
So what is mindset? A mindset is the complex mental frame-work in which our version of reality is built. From the time we are born to this very moment that you’re reading these words, our brain has taken notation of every single thing that’s ever happened in our lives. We consciously, unconsciously and subconsciously have built up opinions, thoughts, reactions, responses, behaviors, emotions, perceptions, perspectives, beliefs and attitudes about all of it. Now, each of those words I listed has a world of their own in them and yet they are all tied together. Ultimately, we have formed inherent beliefs about ourselves, others, our environment, our past, our future, along with what is and isn’t possible for ourselves. A belief is anything we hold to be true. Now, pause here and think about that word, “TRUE”. That’s the key. If we think something is true, then we think we are correct about it, right? Oh that’s where the fun starts!
Perceptions are the hierarchy of our belief systems. Perceptions dictate our thoughts emotions and behaviors. They are both conscious and unconscious and we can clue into them by listening to our own internal narrative. Sometimes this is called a script or a story we tell ourselves and have been telling ourselves about us, others, life and what is and isn’t possible. We have thousands and thousands of beliefs and because we’re human, we again, are very certain that most of those beliefs are correct. Despite that, you’ve probably noticed, much like I have, that a few or perhaps many of our beliefs don’t always feel so great to believe.
I’ll give you an example of a belief that may not work out well for you if you have it around. “I’ll never lose weight”. You, or perhaps someone you know may believe that and it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy, doesn’t it? You would very much like to NOT believe it but you have too much PROOF that it’s true as you mentally list out all of the various diets you’ve been on and all of the miles you’ve run in your life. You can tell this is someone’s inherent belief because once they lose weight, soon after they will gain it all back.
Another example of this is with money. Many people have a scarcity mindset about money. They grew up in an environment of poverty or have continually experienced losing money. Once they get a big tax return or money they blow it all and are living check to check again. What’s the deal? Well, mindset is the deal. These people aren’t bad people, they aren’t unintelligent, and they aren’t willfully irresponsible. These people have a mindset driving them on autopilot, they aren’t aware of it and haven’t been able to shift their mindset.
Here’s another belief particularly someone with a health condition may have, “I’ll never feel good, there’s just too much wrong with me.” Now, if I asked that person, “Hey do you WANT to believe that you will never feel good?” they will probably say, “No. I’d like to believe that I can feel good but I just never do. It seems impossible.” Then they will proceed to give me a long list of reasons why they are correct that they will never feel good and they may even place medical records in front of me to reinforce how correct they are. It’s very understandable why that person would think that, isn’t it? Perhaps we would sympathize with them, which would inadvertently perpetuate their negative and emotions about it even further. People mean well with our sympathy, but we are unintentionally, reinforcing a negative belief the person with the health condition is toting around in their mind. Sympathy with no forward movement is just enablement.
Let me be clear, there is nothing wrong with sympathizing, we very much need that in our lives. There is also nothing wrong with showing medical records and sharing our emotions and feelings. That’s a valid way to relate to each other. I would like for you to notice however, that too much of it can sometimes keep the belief system in place. In my life I have sustained many injuries and have experienced multiple tragedies so believe me, I know what it is to have things going wrong.
One of my many hardships happened when I was 15. I was on the varsity gymnastics team in high school where I sustained an injury to my knees. The Orthopedic Doctor said that I had to stop doing gymnastics and there was no way I was going to the competition the following weekend. I was very angry that this happened to me and complained, complained and complained some more! My knees HURT and I was angry that I couldn’t compete!! After I was all complained-out, I happened to notice that people pandering to me and me feeling resigned kept the concept of my athletic future barren and I remained unhappy. None of that helped and I just felt worse and hopeless. Thankfully, an inherent belief system of mine kicked in which is that I’m resilient and you’d have to kill me to stop me. I remembered how much I value myself! I rehabbed myself and got back into action. I also requested that my family stop talking about the injury and talk about my healing and strength instead. I stopped seeing myself as injured and remembered that I’m powerful and STRONG and that was that. I didn’t and still don’t accept any other version of myself. I also don’t allow people to feel sorry for me. I realize people mean well, but I request powerful conversations around me that are still full of love.
So why is Mindset important in regards to health and lifestyle?
Many of you are dealing with an autoimmune condition or other health condition and have found Sarah Ballantyne’s book, The Paleo Approach to be enormously helpful, which I agree with. With that said, it’s safe to say that having any health condition isn’t easy, trust me I know from personal experience. Many people in your life may not fully understand what you deal with and have no idea what you have to go through just to have energy in your day. You REALLY are dealing with this daily and look at every meal as something that can either make you feel great or make you feel awful. This is the definition of sustained stress. Then, you have probably noticed yourself asking, “why me?” along with many other running thoughts throughout the day. By the time it’s bedtime you’re absolutely exhausted. Sound familiar? Yeah, I’ve been there too. While I’ve never had an autoimmune condition, like I mentioned earlier, I’ve had plenty of other issues to deal with. I will share more about that as we go along.
Our belief systems absolutely dictate the running dialogue throughout our day. When I believed that I’d never compete in gymnastics again my thoughts were very disempowering and I felt worn out. When my resilience kicked in, then my thoughts shifted around and I was more energetic.
Let me be clear, this is NOT positive thinking. Positive thinking is surface level feel-good stuff that mostly does very little to make a lasting impact on our lives. We are looking at what drives the thoughts and that’s our perceptions and beliefs. This is deep stuff, not ethereal mumbo jumbo.
Your beliefs WILL dictate your actions and those actions WILL dictate your results. At this point I have spent thousands of hours coaching, and I can assure you that your beliefs about yourself and what’s possible absolutely determine your experience and your results. This isn’t about blame either, we really can only use the tools that we have, and most of us don’t have many mindset tools. We do our best with what we have and we are amazing!
In the mindset series here on the blog, I will be coaching you through some beginning steps so that you can start to discover for yourself what perceptions you hold, what beliefs you really have and I’ll give you homework so that you can start to do some shifting.
So where is a good place to shift your mindset?
We can do some surface-level work throughout this year and start you on a path to shifting around some of your beliefs and empower you to have the health and life that you want. I will tell you this about me as a Coach and that is I am action-based in my coaching. I am a Coach because as an athlete, I believe firmly in forward movement, progress and being pushed. As such, I will assign you homework between these posts and I’ll continue the conversation on the following posts. If you trust me and take on the homework, I am confident that you’ll open up some old dreams, new possibilities and even feel better. They key for you is to do the work and don’t leave this page with a concept that you’ll forget after five minutes. Embrace this and do the work! I will also tell you that if you don’t do the homework, this will be a waste of your time and you won’t get results. I should also mention here that I’m very blunt, but I deliver my straight talk with love.
So here is your first homework assignment:
- What do you believe to be true about you and your health? NOT what you WANT to believe because we know the “right” answer which is all that positive thinking mumbo jumbo. Get down, dirty and REAL. You have some negative stuff you believe!! We ALL do, everyone you see today and everyone reading this do I promise.
- What is your value? – I’m going to intervene before you put on your sassy pants and say “I don’t know” or “I don’t have any”. NOPE!! Incorrect. I assure you that you do. If you have lost touch with your value, go to the people who love you and interview them. Ask, “What do you value about me?” Explain that you have a homework assignment and that you need that answer. Look back at the kind things you’ve done in your life. Look at your gifts and talents…what can people count on you for?
- Does the answer to number 1 properly reflect the answer to number 2? Why or why not? Are you willing to believe something different about yourself?
Knowing your VALUE and where it comes from is invaluable and we must never forget it.
I’ll give you a hint: Your value is NOT in what kinds of foods you can and can not eat, cellulite content, gluten tolerance, lactose processing (or lack thereof), the number on the scale, money in the bank or how much weight you can back squat. Your value is inherent and existed before you were born and will exist after you die in the hearts of those who love and remember you.
I look forward to working with you all as we get more and more powerful each day. I say “we” because I am in this with you and I get lot out of coaching you, it’s a privilege.
Coach Cinnamon Prime