My Interview with Paleo Non Paleo

December 20, 2012 in About Sarah, Living with Autoimmune Disease, Sarah's Personal AI Struggles

I was recently interviewed by Alison Golden of www.PaleoNonPaleo.com.  I thought the questions were really fun to answer and thought this might be a fun way for you to get to know me but also learn more about the autoimmune protocol.  Below is the interview as it appeared on PaleoNonPaleo.  I also encourage you to check out Alison’s blog as it’s a great resource for anyone struggling with the paleo diet in non-paleo families, workplaces, etc.

The Paleo Mom: Is the Paleo Autoimmune Protocol Too Hard? You Decide.

The Paleo Autoimmune Protocol page is one of the most popular pages on this site and questions about it regularly arrive in my inbox. That tells me that a lot of people have autoimmune disease and are looking to deal with it using the paleo diet.

An expert in this area is Sarah Ballantyne, aka The Paleo Mom. Sarah has a Ph.D. in Medical Biophysics and she’s lost over 100lbs – twice! She lost weight by low-carbing but it has been since she started eating a paleo diet, and particularly by following the autoimmune version of paleo, that she experienced major health benefits and a further loss in weight. The autoimmune disease she suffers from is lichen planus – similar to psoriasis.

No Ph.D.? No problem.

I first encountered Sarah when she guest posted on Paleo Parents. Sarah wrote a great series on leaky gut which is often a precursor to autoimmune disease. She has a wonderful way of explaining it without it feeling like you’re the one who needs the Ph.D., a common problem I’ve found with many leaky gut explanations.

She also has scads and scads of information about paleo and autoimmune disease, and regularly posts paleo recipes many of which adhere to the autoimmune protocol. So if you’re suffering from autoimmune disease, her site really is a one-stop shop for you!

My own experience with the AIP is that it can be very hard to stick to so I sat down for virtual coffee with Sarah, and asked her a few questions about her experience with paleo and the autoimmune protocol.

There is a huge amount of interest in the autoimmune protocol judging by the interest on my site, what do you eat and why?

The autoimmune protocol is a very powerful strategy for managing autoimmune disease and many are finding that their need for medications is diminished if not gone completely.  There are also very few resources for people with autoimmune disease interested in the paleo autoimmune protocol, but there are several bloggers out there working to change that.

I am following nearly the strictest version of the autoimmune protocol.  I do eat most seed-based spices as long as they aren’t nightshades (I’m careful with cumin and pepper because I think I might be having reactions to them).  I can handle a small handful of nuts in a salad as long as I stay away from almonds; but if I eat too many nuts, I quickly see signs of inflammation.  I eat tons of healing foods, lots of organ meat, broth, soups, coconut milk yogurt, coconut oil, grass-fed meat, wild-caught fish, homemade sauerkraut. I do eat raw and cooked veggies (staying away from most starchy vegetables, although I can handle a small portion) and I eat a fair amount of fruit (which I tolerate well).  Doing this has allowed me to manage my autoimmune disease without the use of steroids, and that’s pretty darned awesome.

Do you have any trigger foods you have to stay away from?

Nightshades are huge triggers for me.  I will not put something that touched a tomato into my mouth.  I also have to be careful of eggs, almonds, chocolate, all dairy, and too much starch or insoluble fiber.  And of course, I would not touch a grain or legume with a 10-foot pole.

I read earlier this year that you continue to tweak your eating and exercise habits to remove the final lingering issues, (I can relate) how are you doing with those?

I feel like a constant work in progress.  But, I am making actual progress, even if it’s slower than I’d like.  For me, it’s more about healing my body and managing my autoimmune disease than it is about losing more weight or even making milestones at the gym (although I wouldn’t complain if I could find a way to lose 15 more pounds or get strong enough to do some more challenging arm balances in yoga).  I had a flare last summer which has been challenging to figure out.  Actually, that’s not entirely true.  It was completely easy to figure out once I got over my denial about being sensitive to chocolate, coffee, eggs, all nightshades, and almonds.  The flare started after I had been following the AIP for about 6 months and I had been trying to reintroduce foods that I had eliminated.  I was doing this at a time when my stress level was quite high too, which on hindsight was not the greatest idea.   I just really wanted to be able to keep enjoying those foods., and it was hard to accept that (at least for now) I can’t.  But, my healing is back on track, which is what motivates me to continue.

The AIP is tough over the longer term, do you fudge it at all? What happens if you do – how reactive are your symptoms? Do you anticipate a time when you will be able to come off it?

Following the AIP is very tough, but I actually think it gets easier over time.  I had a much more difficult time figuring out what to eat and figuring out fast meals and convenience foods when I first started.  Now, I find it fairly easy to plan ahead and budget my time in the kitchen.  I have a large repertoire of delicious AIP-friendly meals to make.  And, I’ve discovered how much I enjoy some fairly unorthodox foods for breakfast (like borscht or fried lamb kidney with sauerkraut).  Getting used to eating foods I normally wouldn’t have associated with breakfast has been one of the biggest parts to making the AIP feel easier.  I also don’t feel like I’m missing out as often now, which I think is because I am getting a lot of enjoyment out of the foods I’m eating these days.

Yes, I do fudge a little, but not as much as I used to.  I have spent nearly a year on the Autoimmune Protocol, but much of that time was spent trying to figure out where my line is.  And unfortunately, it seems as though I have to stay pretty strict in order to continue to see improvements in my skin.  But, I am human.  I do occasionally eat things that I know aren’t good for me.  For example, I do take a bite of any new recipe I’m working on for the blog that isn’t AIP-friendly.  If I know I’m very likely to react, I actually chew it and spit it out; but on the other end of the spectrum, if I know I probably won’t react that badly, one bite might turn into seven or twenty.  I have been experimenting with ways to satisfy my sweet tooth within the confines of the AIP (even though sugar is inflammatory and I know I really should just stick with meat and veggies).  However, I’m actually doing a much better job keeping my “cheats” to a minimum these days (and restricting myself to foods that I know won’t cause much of a reaction).   The more I heal, the fewer food cravings I seem to have, so that makes it easier too.

I do think that I will need to stay on the AIP (or at least the way I’m implementing it now, which allows for seed-based spices and occasional nuts and seeds) for a long time—I’m thinking years.  I have two young kids, so my sleep is not optimal.  I am up with one or both of them most nights (going on 6 years now) and this is one of my biggest challenges to healing.  I think that until I am reliably getting good quality (and quantity) sleep, my diet will have to stay very clean.

Who would most benefit from the autoimmune protocol and what can they expect in terms of degree of difficulty, withdrawal or cravings, health benefits?

I could write an entire book on this topic.  I think anyone with diagnosed autoimmune disease, a strong family history of autoimmune disease, or symptoms of early autoimmunity that aren’t going away with a standard paleo diet are good candidates for the autoimmune protocol.  How long it takes to see improvement and how dramatic that improvement is varies from person to person.  It’s dependent on what autoimmune disease a person has, how advanced it is, what other issues are going on in their bodies (like yeast or bacterial overgrowths, food sensitivities, micronutrient deficiencies, how well the liver is functioning, etc.) and how well they comply with the AIP and address other lifestyle factors (like sleep, stress management, and spending time outside).

In terms of how difficult it is to implement, that really depends on what diet a person is coming from and how comfortable they are in the kitchen.  From a standard paleo diet perspective, the biggest challenge is figuring out breakfasts.  My breakfasts typically consist of any combination of homemade sausages, pastured bacon, soups, leftovers, veggies, sauerkraut, and fruit.  My emergency I-have-no-time-to-make-anything breakfast is a big bowl of broth (which I always keep in my freezer), a spoonful of extra virgin coconut oil, and a banana.

The transition is tougher from a Standard American Diet and I usually recommend that people transition to a standard paleo diet (or something similar like the GAPS diet or SCD diet) first.  Many people will see some improvements and won’t actually need to tackle the full AIP.  The AIP also requires a commitment to food preparation and cooking beyond what most people need to do on a standard paleo diet.  This can be the most overwhelming part for people:  how to find enough time in the kitchen to cook AIP-friendly food.  This gets easier over time.  My biggest trick is to use my freezer.  I make big batches of everything and then freeze portions for quick meals when needed.  And leftovers are my best friend.

You lost 100 pounds (twice!) before you went paleo and then a further 20+lbs after you’d changed to a paleo diet, what do you consider were the most critical factors in your success. And also in keeping it off? What had to change in your life for that success to happen?

The biggest factor in my weight loss success is stress management and sleep.  Yep, not diet at all.  Getting enough sleep and managing my stress levels through yoga, walking and just plain old having fun are what have made making the right food choices easy.  Even now, if I have a particularly bad night (with two young kids that happens more often than I would like), I find it very difficult to control my food intake the next day and have very strong sugar and/or fat cravings.  Prioritizing sleep and stress management has also been critical in weight maintenance and in healing in general.

How do you feel now about the unhealthy, sick years you had?

Conflicted.  I feel mournful and frustrated that twenty years ago I didn’t have the nutrition knowledge I have now.  I feel angry knowing that I could have prevented autoimmune disease if I had followed a paleo diet back then and taken more steps to manage stress.  I wonder how being healthier in my pregnancies might have positively influenced my daughters’ health.  I wonder what permanent damage has been done to my body that I will never be able to heal.  I still wish that I could have been thin and elegant in my wedding dress.  But, I am happy to have found a solution when I did, and I try to focus on that positive as much as possible.   I am so much healthier now, and I truly appreciate that.

I really try never to regret anything from my past (that can be tough sometimes, but it’s a worthy goal).  My past experiences are what made me who I am today.  And I like who I am and where I am in life.  I doubt that I would be blogging about lifestyle and nutrition if I hadn’t had those experiences.  So, how can I regret something that now allows me to help, educate and inspire so many?

What changes have you noticed in your family since you have changed their diet? Did they come to paleo willingly or reluctantly? How did you manage the transition?

I followed a paleo diet on my own in the household for several months before trying to transition my family.  They transitioned slowly, first to gluten-free, then to grain-free, then to primal/lacto-paleo, then to full paleo (legumes were easy to get rid of in our household).  It took about six months.  They relied very heavily on paleo baking in the beginning, but we have phased out most of it over time (my oldest daughter still eats paleo bread most days with her breakfast, which is my next target).  We have seen health improvements in the whole family.  My oldest daughter has more energy, better behavior, and sleeps better.  My youngest daughter had obstructive sleep apnea caused by a malformation in her larynx and aggravated by acid reflux and inflammation.  She went from having apnea events several times most nights to now only having it once every few weeks (more frequent during viral infections).  My husband didn’t really have any health problems, so it’s hard to pinpoint specific improvements in him.  His digestion is better, which is probably the biggest difference for him.

What about your husband? Did he jump onboard? How did he react and how did you get his support/manage with his reaction?

In the beginning, my husband made a statement about how he was not giving up his bread and cereal.  Of course, I do all the shopping and the cooking and quickly found some great ways to make paleofied versions of his staples, which helped tremendously.  Plus, I’m a very good cook and he soon realized that eating paleo was still going to taste good.  He doesn’t even remember saying that now and swears that he was on board from the beginning.

Apart from yoga, what exercise do you do? Did you manage to reset your set point with sprinting?

Ugh. Sprinting.  No, that didn’t end up working for me.  I lost my enthusiasm for it and found myself dreading my workouts.  And my philosophy on activity is that you have to enjoy it.  I love my yoga classes and look forward to them.  I feel so great during and after.  That is something sustainable for me.  My schedule this fall changed and I can no longer get to all three of my regular classes each week, so I’ve been replacing that third yoga class with a “pure muscle” class instead (basic full body weight lifting workout).  I don’t love it, but I do like that I can see myself getting stronger.  I’d rather do more yoga though.  I also walk at least a couple of times per week, either going for a family hike (typically fairly rigorous) or walking the mile uphill pushing my youngest in the stroller to pick my oldest up at school (and then the much slower walk back downhill returning home), which we try to do twice per week.  I also play fairly actively with my kids and do some gardening.  I would love to do more but can’t seem to find a way of integrating more activity with my schedule in a sustainable way.

What are your favorite paleo recipes?

My favorite recipes that I actually make over and over again in my home are:
Pomegranate Molasses-Glazed Salmon
Greek-Inspired Slow-Roasted Leg of Lamb
Egg-Free, Tomato-Free (Hidden Liver) Paleo Meatloaf
Paleo Shrimp Chow Mein
Paleo Chicken Pad Thai
Honey-Garlic Chicken Wings
Offal (But Not Awful) Stew
Chicken Bone Broth (Revisited)
Honey-Candied Ginger
Pumpkin Spice Dehydrator Cookies (AIP-friendly)

How do you handle entertaining and eating away from home?

Typically, I host most of our get-togethers, which I love doing because then I’m in control of the food (and I like cooking).  For any meal or party that I host, I will keep everything paleo.  I do typically make paleo foods that are more broadly appealing (sweeter cookies than I normally make, for example, or roasts with lots of side veggies so no one misses dinner rolls and mashed potatoes — and I save the beef cheek, lamb’s liver, and pork trotters for other occasions). When we get invited to other people homes, I mention our food requirements to the host and always offer to bring something that we can eat to contribute to the meal/snacks etc.  If it’s a potluck, I always bring something that will satisfy our family just in case there really isn’t anything else on the table that we can participate in.  I also relax my food standards for my kids, who have gluten intolerances, but can handle small occasional doses of non gluten-containing grains, dairy, and legumes.  I think part of getting through these events is figuring out where the line that you won’t cross is (for me it’s nightshades, grains and legumes; but for my husband and kids, it’s just gluten).

It also helps dramatically to be able to say “No,” at least sometimes.  My kids don’t sleep in, so I use their young ages and early bedtimes as an excuse to skip out on many evening social events (which helps me get to bed at a good time throughout the holidays too!).  Of course, we don’t say no to everything and sometimes a babysitter is required.  Being a team with my husband helps because if we do go out in the evening, we’re usually both tired the next day (some parents take turns so the other can rest, but we typically team up and do everything together).  It also helps that we both tend to prefer quiet, so the activities that we plan are low-key things like family hikes, trips to the playground, building a fire in the fireplace, and finding board games that two adults, a nearly 6-year old and a 3-year old can all play together.

What would you say to anyone considering the autoimmune protocol? What is the best advice you can give them?

Plan ahead.  Spend a day or two cooking and see if you can fill your freezer with AIP-friendly foods (like broth, soups, stews, homemade sausage, precooked meats).  Having foods easily available to you is one of the most important things you can do to set yourself up for success.  Don’t forget the healing foods like broth, fish, grass-fed meat and coconut oil.  And make sure to eat organ meat!  Also, don’t forget the importance of sleep and stress management.  The better you are able to optimize sleep and stress management, the faster you will heal and all this work that you are putting into your diet will pay off.

Don’t feel frustrated or discouraged if the autoimmune protocol isn’t an instant fix.  Many people need some time to heal internally before they notice a dramatic difference in their symptoms.  Try to stick to the strictest version of the AIP for 2-3 months before tweaking.  I also recommend finding a paleo-savvy functional medicine practitioner to work with if at all possible.  Micronutrient deficiencies and food sensitivities can be confounding factors and these aren’t easy to identify on your own.

Remember that you are not alone.  There is an entire community out there of people who found the paleo diet through frustration with autoimmune disease (who are then frustrated that they have to give up eggs and coffee).  If you need a little support, you are always welcome to drop by my Facebook wall and leave a message or ask a question.

Guest Post by Angie Alt: Autoimmunity, AIP, & Family Life

November 27, 2012 in Living with Autoimmune Disease

Angie Alt is wife, mother, world traveler & blogger.  She’s also a warrior in the autoimmunity war.  Angie confronts three autoimmune disorders each day, including Celiac Disease, with powerful management techniques like AIPaleo & the Paleolithic lifestyle.  She blogs regularly about the emotional side of tackling autoimmunity, adopting Paleo, and how it impacts her, her family, & their way of life.  You can read more by Angela Alt at her blog and connect with her on Facebook.

I’ve been on a long, looong journey with autoimmunity.  It started about 12 years ago and in February of this year, I believe I finally got the full picture when I was diagnosed with Celiac Disease (in addition to two other previously diagnosed autoimmunes.)  I’ve been a mother that whole time and married for seven of those years.  My entire autoimmune journey has been conducted with a family at my side.  I’ve been thinking a lot recently about how chronic illness (as autoimmune disorders often lead to) and management strategies, like AIP, impact family life.

 As anyone with an autoimmune disorder knows, the level of illness changes over time.  At points I was keenly aware that something was wrong as I struggled with flares of painful and confusing symptoms and at other times, things would seem to have completely disappeared.  For me, the last three years were the most extreme and the rollercoaster ride was grueling not only for me, but also for my husband and daughter.

 My sickest years coincided with our family living in West Africa for my husband’s work.  The bewildering, irregular symptoms were virtually impossible to nail down there and resulted in three medical evacuations.  Even more disheartening, I found little to no help from the mainstream medical community each time I returned to the U.S.   It was intensely stressful and frightening for all of us.  I felt ashamed and guilty for putting my husband and young daughter through such traumatic events over and over.  As my shame and guilt grew, so did my emotional distance from the two people who cared about me most.

 Last October, it became clear that I had to return to the U.S. permanently and dedicate myself to finding an answer.  It meant that my illness was effectively ending my husband’s work abroad.  While he knew this was the right decision, it was a complicated transition.  Quite obviously, it was hard on our marriage and parenting.   None of it helped my guilt and shame.  I blamed myself for putting my family in such a spot, especially as I saw doctor after doctor and still got no answers.

 On the other side, my husband felt helpless.  It was clear to him that I was steadily becoming sicker, but without clear answers he did not know how to address the situation.  He was privately afraid of what might be wrong, but nervous to express his fears.  As he struggled to balance his career and role in the family, with the pressures of taking care of my needs, he became insecure about how to label it for our family and friends.  I had previously been a solace for him, but now I was a source of anxiety.  His guilt and shame over these negative emotions also grew and widened the gulf between us.

 That “in-between” was inhabited by our daughter.  Naturally, we did everything possible to shield her from what we could and help her roll with the punches where we couldn’t.  Nonetheless, autoimmunity sometimes looms over a whole family, touching every member.  She ended up attending multiple schools for the third and fifth grades, in large part due to our attempts to discover and treat my illness.  We celebrated her 10th birthday just days after I got out of the hospital (with chronic appendicitis and endometriosis complications).  The photos of that day show me with dark circles under my eyes and a gaunt body.  I actually missed her 11th birthday party, because I was again in the hospital, suffering through what I now know was a Celiac crisis.  Most of the time she has been incredibly strong and flexible, but occasionally she tells us how hard it was to walk through such a scary period not knowing what was wrong with me or what her place was supposed to be in it.

 With all of that build up, you can imagine the flood of relief for all of us when I was diagnosed in February.  Knowing was half the battle for our family.  The more I researched, the better we understood the whole autoimmune process and so much that was unresolved for us came together.  In May, after three months of struggling to get my health on track with a traditional gluten-free diet, I discovered The Paleo Mom & started AIP.  It was an incredible breakthrough in my healing.  Not only did we understand autoimmunity, but we also began to understand nutrition’s role as a serious way forward.

 As I have passionately followed it for nearly seven months now, it has changed our lives again.  I’ve come to understand that it will not “cure” me, but it has had amazingly positive impacts on all three of us.  For starters, I am 1,000% healthier than I was a year ago.  Being healthier has allowed me to begin dealing with all the guilt and shame.  Letting that go has meant renewed connection to my husband and daughter.  No more brain fog and debilitating fatigue means we can begin to process together what chronic illness has meant and mend the damaged bridges.

 For my husband, a return of my emotional stability, in particular, has allowed him to open up and our marriage to heal.  It also resulted in him adopting Paleo 80/20 and dropping dairy entirely.  When I discovered a new functional medicine doctor, he saw her too and learned about Vitamin D & magnesium deficiencies he needed to treat.  He’s lost weight and restarted his beloved fitness routines with great results.

 For my daughter seeing me slowly return to health has meant that we can enjoy more time that feels secure and less unpredictable in the face of autoimmune flares.  Gradually, we have worked to deal with each upsetting moment from our past.  And while convincing a 12 year old to drop a SAD diet is not the easiest thing on the planet, she got on board after we finally drew a connection between migraines she has suffered since she was a toddler and gluten.  She is now roughly an 80/20 Paleo girl too, with 99% avoidance of gluten at all times.  The results have been amazing.

 We plan, prepare, and clean up countless meals together every week now.  My daughter has a better understanding of real nutrition than almost any child her age, for that matter, than most adults.  We have a 100% gluten-free household and my family’s support on that non-negotiable has been humbling for me.  We’ve discovered new treats together and stretched ourselves in an effort to heal from the negative impacts of autoimmunity.

 This is actually just a small silver of the way autoimmunity and AIP have altered our family life.  I can’t say that I am 100% able to view this journey as a blessing, but I can say that our bond has actually gotten stronger despite the serious pressures.  We’ve weathered some major storms together as a family and managed to come out on the other side with some significant rewards . . . the gifts of health and each other.

Challenge #1 Update: My Much Less Skeptical Husband

May 1, 2012 in 2012, About Sarah's Family

This week is my 6 month blogiversary, which means that I have been working on transitioning my family to a paleo diet for half of a year!  But, all those small changes have really added up and we have made amazing progress.  So, I felt an update to my challenges (and my goals) is overdue.

In anticipation of writing this update, I asked my husband what he thought about “this whole paleo thing”.  He said (in a fairly nonchalant voice) “It’s fine”.  My initial dismay at this unenthusiastic reply was immediately tempered by what he said next:  You have made such innovative recipes in your pursuit of paleo perfection, that I don’t really miss anything.  Except beer.  Can you make paleo beer?”. 

It’s true that one of the most helpful parts in transitioning my family was to find or create recipes for paleo versions of their staples:  things like muffins, yeast-based paleo bread, granola bars, and even yogurt.  My husband doesn’t have an emotional attachment to food (like I do!).  So, as long as it’s easy for him, tastes okay, and doesn’t make him feel ill, he’s “fine”.  That’s what he meant.  And, my husband’s diet does qualify as paleo now!  He relies heavily on nuts and paleo baked goods, drinks heavy cream in his coffee, and has the occasional piece of cheese or serving of rice.  But, my husband doesn’t have health issues that would suggest he needs to be 100% compliant.  He is a man who can cheat on a paleo diet and get away with it.  However, I wanted to know whether my husband is paleo simply because I cook him paleo food.  Has he bought into the concepts behind the paleo diet?  We had a long discussion about this and the answer is “maybe not entirely”.  But, he has really changed his way of thinking about gluten and would no longer intentionally consume it.  When he travels or attends a catered function at work, he loosens the other aspects of his diet but remains steadfastly gluten-free.  While I think his level of buy-in still qualifies more as supporting me than supporting this way of life, I am pleased that he has accepted this key concept.

It helped to change gradually.  This allowed my family’s taste buds to adjust slowly and mitigated any adjustment period that they would have felt with a more cold-turkey-like transition (like the one I did for myself).  And if you don’t have obvious health issues that are compelling you to make a dramatic change, why not transition gradually?  Some people need to just jump in with both feet (I’m like this due to some sugar addiction issues), but others need to warm up to paleo more slowly.  And, I want this to be a lifelong way of eating and living for my whole family, so my focus is on sustainability rather than achieving the paleo dieter badge as quickly as possible.  I have addressed parts of my husband’s transition to paelo in these posts:

As an update on our attempt to get my husband to gain some weight, he has gained 4 pounds in the last 3 weeks with the increased food intake.  He feels terrible if he skips a meal or doesn’t eat enough protein at breakfast and his appetite definitely seems better.  I’d like to see him gain another 10-20 pounds, preferably mostly as muscle.  But that will require further changes to his lifestyle, especially his stress management. 

My husband is an assistant professor with his tenure review constantly looming over him in addition to the incessant pressure of getting grants in a very competitive funding environment.  He is under a great deal of stress, what we refer to as “Assistant Professor Syndrome”.  One of his colleagues recently joked that, due to the demands of assistant professorship, he was only “allowed” 4 hours of sleep.  When we started transitioning to a paleo diet, my husband didn’t have major health issues that needed improving.  And the continued issues he does have are likely caused by living with too much stress rather than deficiencies in his diet.  Changing his diet didn’t affect his seasonal allergies this spring (although he was eating alot more dairy at the time).  We did discover that he has a mild FODMAP sensitivity, which simply means we can’t eat quite as many cruciferous veggies as I would like (or else he gets a pretty bad stomach ache).  He still has issues sleeping and feels tired much of the time.  He knows that he needs to do better with carving out more time for exercise, but most days, it seems like an insurmountable task. 

So, what are my new goals for my husband?  I guess now, I want to work on the other tenets of the paleolithic lifestyle.  I want to find ways to help him manage his stress and get better quality sleep.  I want to help him find more time to exercise and get outdoors.  I’m not sure exactly how to do this, beyond being as supportive as I can.  I am hoping that the recent diet changes we’ve made will help regulate his stress and sleep hormones a little better (which usually takes a couple of months to really see).  But, he is making gradual progress in these areas too, and I want to emphasize how much positive change he has made these last 6 months.  And I truly appreciate his continued support of my venture to improve our family’s health and my desire to candidly share our story with you.  Maybe I’ll thank him by buying him some gluten-free beer.

“Wait a Minute, I Can See Your Ribs!”

April 3, 2012 in 2012, Weight Loss/Gain

This, sadly, was not said to me.  My weight seems to be firmly entrenched 10-20 pounds heavier than I’d ideally like it to be.  I don’t know if it’s hormones, lifestyle factors, or a need for further diet tweaks that is stopping me from losing those last few pounds (or all of the above).  And I know ALOT of us deal with this same issue.  I am trying some new ideas to get beyond this body weight set-point, but this is a topic for a future post; I am off on a tangent. 

No, it wasn’t anyone else who said those words to me.  I said them.  I said them to my husband.  And then, I realized what I was saying.  Holy [expletive deleted], I can see my husband’s ribs!  Now, my husband has always been naturally thin.  He doesn’t need to lose weight, he needs to gain it (preferably in the form of muscle).  But all this healthy paleo food that I’m cooking (which tends to be on the low-carb side to help me reach my goals) seems to have resulted in my husband losing a couple of pounds (and this is after he lost weight with an illness a year and a half ago that he never regained and after he lost weight with his hernia repair last December which he never regained).  He just plain old isn’t eating enough.  He is lazy when it comes to preparing his own breakfast and packing his lunch.  He doesn’t have a big appetite (he probably is eating too low carb for what his goals are).  But my sudden realization has sparked some conversation about ways that he can eat more.

So, what do you do if you want to gain weight on a paleo dietA paleo diet already focusses on food quality, so really, the most important thing is to just eat more.  How much more?  Well, weight gain should be slow and steady so that hormones aren’t completely disrupted.  With my husband, I’m aiming for 25% more (we’ll evaluate in a month or two).  If you’re looking to gain weight from a plateau, 10% would be a better place to start.  The biggest challenge for my husband is that he just isn’t that hungry. 

So, what do you do if you just aren’t that hungry?  Increase your carbs.  Yes, I said more carbs, but I don’t mean go nuts and start eating tons of refined sugar.  For my husband, we’re aiming for 3-4 pieces of fruit per day (because more fructose stimulates appetite) and at least 1 big serving of a starchy vegetable.  Hopefully that should help him down those bigger servings at meals.

So, where should those extra calories come from?  From everywhere.  A bigger serving of everything, every time you eat.  We are tackling this with some specific “rules”.  For breakfast, we are trying smoothies, since that’s the easiest (and quickest to prepare) way to incorporate a lot of nutrition (and calories) in one easy to consume package (and incidentally, smoothies are not a great food if you are trying to lose weight).  The shake I made for him this morning contained:

  • 3 pastured eggs,
  • 1 cup homemade coconut milk (full-fat)
  • 1 large spoon almond butter (I would guess 2-3 Tbsp)
  • 1 banana
  • About 2 Tbsp frozen chopped spinach

I put everything except the banana into the large travel cup for my Magic Bullet and put it in the fridge for him the night before.  In the morning, he just had to peel a banana, add it to the cup, blend it for 15 seconds and that was it.  Yummy!  Actually, my 5-year old has decided that she likes these too!  My husband is adding a mid-morning snack (which he didn’t eat before) of homemade trail mix.  For lunch, my husband is either packing himself a healthy portion of leftovers from supper the night before or two sandwiches on paleo bread along with some fruit, some veggies and a paleo granola bar or muffin.  I am also putting more food on his plate at supper, including a starchy vegetable.

 

This seems like a pretty good amount for my husband to eat.  We’ll see how it works.  My husband has also recommitted to doing more exercise, including some strength training around the house so that the weight he puts on is more likely to be muscle.  I am optimistic that this will do the trick!