Guest Post by Angie Alt: Unexpected Paleo

February 21, 2013 in Living with Autoimmune Disease

Angie AltAngie Alt is wife, mother, world traveler & blogger. She’s also a warrior in the autoimmunity war. Angie confronts three autoimmune disorders each day, including Celiac Disease, with powerful management techniques like AIPaleo & the Paleolithic lifestyle. She blogs regularly about the emotional side of tackling autoimmunity, adopting Paleo, and how it impacts her, her family, & their way of life. You can read more by Angela Alt at her blog and connect with her on Facebook.

You know what I am sick of . . . and I’m surprising myself saying this, but seriously, I’m sick of hearing about how Paleo is so easy.  It seems like I read story after story all day long about how adopting Paleo was the easiest thing that “Paleolithic John” ever did for himself.  As someone trying hard to manage autoimmunity with AIP, I’m not sure I can bear one more blow-by-blow narrative about “Paleolithic Jane” eating awesome buffalo chili and nut-flour based cookies while simultaneously achieving a perfect weight, spending peak sunshine hours outside soaking up rays, AND kicking butt at her job with all her new, incredible energy.  Really?  It was no big deal?

 Paleo takes commitment, planning, and often, to be honest, bucks.  Convenient?  Not always.  Spontaneous?  Not really.  The truth is that Paleo is not always easy and certainly not effortless, but somewhere along the path you might notice some unexpected benefits.  The more annoyed I felt about the “Paleo is super easy, but also transformed my life” stories, the more I tried to focus on the unanticipated rewards that this lifestyle has offered me.  The following are four of the reasons I keep working at the Paleo ideal, despite the fact that it is, (shhh, don’t tell Paleolithic John & Jane) hard work.

 1)  I spend more time with my family.  Real time.  We don’t rush to the next event while chowing down the fast food we were forced to pick up on the way.  Following a Paleo diet means a lot more work, more than just one person can do (and not sleep in the kitchen anyway).  We plan meals together, we cook together, we eat together and we clean up together.  My daughter and I pick out new Paleo-fied desserts and learn how to make them together.  My husband and I high-five each other and joke about being stellar chefs when we get a new roast recipe perfect.  Somehow this simple act of changing the kinds of food we eat, has changed how much time we spend together and the value of that time.

 2)  This seems a little strange, but not having as many choices, has made me less stressed.  I don’t go to the grocery store worried about missing the sale on the best salad dressings, I don’t worry about trying to fit in a trip to Dunkin’ Donuts before I get to the office, and while overall Paleo takes a lot of planning, the basics of putting together a meal are straightforward.  I need to eat meat, veggies, and fat with a little fruit and I need to drink water.  I have plenty of choices to navigate every day, making food choice more streamlined makes me a less stressed lady.

 3)  So, this follows . . . I appreciate the good food more I have left over when all those extra choices are eliminated.  Much more.  I made pork roast with just oregano and garlic the other night and it was the most delicious thing I ever put in my mouth.  My food is yummier than it used to be and I think it is because I eliminated all the “clutter.”  It might also be that I don’t feel awful right after I eat, that’s a biggie too.

 4)  I have become more thoughtful about my priorities.  Doctors have judgment about how I’m eating.  Friends, family, etc. think I am taking it way too far with this Paleo stuff.  I know it is working though, so I keep on going against the grain (pun intended).  I don’t believe that risking my health or my family’s for the sake of going with the flow is a legitimate choice anymore.  It’s not always comfortable to stick with it though and that has forced me to truly clarify my priorities.  Clear priorities mean a more confident me.

 The clear health benefits I’ve experienced by following a Paleo template obviously make it worthwhile, but those benefits were hard won.  Adapting to the Paleo life is truly a work in progress.  I’m finding that all that effort is showing up in lots of unexpected places and inspiring me to keep putting my health first.

My Interview with Paleo Non Paleo

December 20, 2012 in About Sarah, Living with Autoimmune Disease, Sarah's Personal AI Struggles

I was recently interviewed by Alison Golden of www.PaleoNonPaleo.com.  I thought the questions were really fun to answer and thought this might be a fun way for you to get to know me but also learn more about the autoimmune protocol.  Below is the interview as it appeared on PaleoNonPaleo.  I also encourage you to check out Alison’s blog as it’s a great resource for anyone struggling with the paleo diet in non-paleo families, workplaces, etc.

The Paleo Mom: Is the Paleo Autoimmune Protocol Too Hard? You Decide.

The Paleo Autoimmune Protocol page is one of the most popular pages on this site and questions about it regularly arrive in my inbox. That tells me that a lot of people have autoimmune disease and are looking to deal with it using the paleo diet.

An expert in this area is Sarah Ballantyne, aka The Paleo Mom. Sarah has a Ph.D. in Medical Biophysics and she’s lost over 100lbs – twice! She lost weight by low-carbing but it has been since she started eating a paleo diet, and particularly by following the autoimmune version of paleo, that she experienced major health benefits and a further loss in weight. The autoimmune disease she suffers from is lichen planus – similar to psoriasis.

No Ph.D.? No problem.

I first encountered Sarah when she guest posted on Paleo Parents. Sarah wrote a great series on leaky gut which is often a precursor to autoimmune disease. She has a wonderful way of explaining it without it feeling like you’re the one who needs the Ph.D., a common problem I’ve found with many leaky gut explanations.

She also has scads and scads of information about paleo and autoimmune disease, and regularly posts paleo recipes many of which adhere to the autoimmune protocol. So if you’re suffering from autoimmune disease, her site really is a one-stop shop for you!

My own experience with the AIP is that it can be very hard to stick to so I sat down for virtual coffee with Sarah, and asked her a few questions about her experience with paleo and the autoimmune protocol.

There is a huge amount of interest in the autoimmune protocol judging by the interest on my site, what do you eat and why?

The autoimmune protocol is a very powerful strategy for managing autoimmune disease and many are finding that their need for medications is diminished if not gone completely.  There are also very few resources for people with autoimmune disease interested in the paleo autoimmune protocol, but there are several bloggers out there working to change that.

I am following nearly the strictest version of the autoimmune protocol.  I do eat most seed-based spices as long as they aren’t nightshades (I’m careful with cumin and pepper because I think I might be having reactions to them).  I can handle a small handful of nuts in a salad as long as I stay away from almonds; but if I eat too many nuts, I quickly see signs of inflammation.  I eat tons of healing foods, lots of organ meat, broth, soups, coconut milk yogurt, coconut oil, grass-fed meat, wild-caught fish, homemade sauerkraut. I do eat raw and cooked veggies (staying away from most starchy vegetables, although I can handle a small portion) and I eat a fair amount of fruit (which I tolerate well).  Doing this has allowed me to manage my autoimmune disease without the use of steroids, and that’s pretty darned awesome.

Do you have any trigger foods you have to stay away from?

Nightshades are huge triggers for me.  I will not put something that touched a tomato into my mouth.  I also have to be careful of eggs, almonds, chocolate, all dairy, and too much starch or insoluble fiber.  And of course, I would not touch a grain or legume with a 10-foot pole.

I read earlier this year that you continue to tweak your eating and exercise habits to remove the final lingering issues, (I can relate) how are you doing with those?

I feel like a constant work in progress.  But, I am making actual progress, even if it’s slower than I’d like.  For me, it’s more about healing my body and managing my autoimmune disease than it is about losing more weight or even making milestones at the gym (although I wouldn’t complain if I could find a way to lose 15 more pounds or get strong enough to do some more challenging arm balances in yoga).  I had a flare last summer which has been challenging to figure out.  Actually, that’s not entirely true.  It was completely easy to figure out once I got over my denial about being sensitive to chocolate, coffee, eggs, all nightshades, and almonds.  The flare started after I had been following the AIP for about 6 months and I had been trying to reintroduce foods that I had eliminated.  I was doing this at a time when my stress level was quite high too, which on hindsight was not the greatest idea.   I just really wanted to be able to keep enjoying those foods., and it was hard to accept that (at least for now) I can’t.  But, my healing is back on track, which is what motivates me to continue.

The AIP is tough over the longer term, do you fudge it at all? What happens if you do – how reactive are your symptoms? Do you anticipate a time when you will be able to come off it?

Following the AIP is very tough, but I actually think it gets easier over time.  I had a much more difficult time figuring out what to eat and figuring out fast meals and convenience foods when I first started.  Now, I find it fairly easy to plan ahead and budget my time in the kitchen.  I have a large repertoire of delicious AIP-friendly meals to make.  And, I’ve discovered how much I enjoy some fairly unorthodox foods for breakfast (like borscht or fried lamb kidney with sauerkraut).  Getting used to eating foods I normally wouldn’t have associated with breakfast has been one of the biggest parts to making the AIP feel easier.  I also don’t feel like I’m missing out as often now, which I think is because I am getting a lot of enjoyment out of the foods I’m eating these days.

Yes, I do fudge a little, but not as much as I used to.  I have spent nearly a year on the Autoimmune Protocol, but much of that time was spent trying to figure out where my line is.  And unfortunately, it seems as though I have to stay pretty strict in order to continue to see improvements in my skin.  But, I am human.  I do occasionally eat things that I know aren’t good for me.  For example, I do take a bite of any new recipe I’m working on for the blog that isn’t AIP-friendly.  If I know I’m very likely to react, I actually chew it and spit it out; but on the other end of the spectrum, if I know I probably won’t react that badly, one bite might turn into seven or twenty.  I have been experimenting with ways to satisfy my sweet tooth within the confines of the AIP (even though sugar is inflammatory and I know I really should just stick with meat and veggies).  However, I’m actually doing a much better job keeping my “cheats” to a minimum these days (and restricting myself to foods that I know won’t cause much of a reaction).   The more I heal, the fewer food cravings I seem to have, so that makes it easier too.

I do think that I will need to stay on the AIP (or at least the way I’m implementing it now, which allows for seed-based spices and occasional nuts and seeds) for a long time—I’m thinking years.  I have two young kids, so my sleep is not optimal.  I am up with one or both of them most nights (going on 6 years now) and this is one of my biggest challenges to healing.  I think that until I am reliably getting good quality (and quantity) sleep, my diet will have to stay very clean.

Who would most benefit from the autoimmune protocol and what can they expect in terms of degree of difficulty, withdrawal or cravings, health benefits?

I could write an entire book on this topic.  I think anyone with diagnosed autoimmune disease, a strong family history of autoimmune disease, or symptoms of early autoimmunity that aren’t going away with a standard paleo diet are good candidates for the autoimmune protocol.  How long it takes to see improvement and how dramatic that improvement is varies from person to person.  It’s dependent on what autoimmune disease a person has, how advanced it is, what other issues are going on in their bodies (like yeast or bacterial overgrowths, food sensitivities, micronutrient deficiencies, how well the liver is functioning, etc.) and how well they comply with the AIP and address other lifestyle factors (like sleep, stress management, and spending time outside).

In terms of how difficult it is to implement, that really depends on what diet a person is coming from and how comfortable they are in the kitchen.  From a standard paleo diet perspective, the biggest challenge is figuring out breakfasts.  My breakfasts typically consist of any combination of homemade sausages, pastured bacon, soups, leftovers, veggies, sauerkraut, and fruit.  My emergency I-have-no-time-to-make-anything breakfast is a big bowl of broth (which I always keep in my freezer), a spoonful of extra virgin coconut oil, and a banana.

The transition is tougher from a Standard American Diet and I usually recommend that people transition to a standard paleo diet (or something similar like the GAPS diet or SCD diet) first.  Many people will see some improvements and won’t actually need to tackle the full AIP.  The AIP also requires a commitment to food preparation and cooking beyond what most people need to do on a standard paleo diet.  This can be the most overwhelming part for people:  how to find enough time in the kitchen to cook AIP-friendly food.  This gets easier over time.  My biggest trick is to use my freezer.  I make big batches of everything and then freeze portions for quick meals when needed.  And leftovers are my best friend.

You lost 100 pounds (twice!) before you went paleo and then a further 20+lbs after you’d changed to a paleo diet, what do you consider were the most critical factors in your success. And also in keeping it off? What had to change in your life for that success to happen?

The biggest factor in my weight loss success is stress management and sleep.  Yep, not diet at all.  Getting enough sleep and managing my stress levels through yoga, walking and just plain old having fun are what have made making the right food choices easy.  Even now, if I have a particularly bad night (with two young kids that happens more often than I would like), I find it very difficult to control my food intake the next day and have very strong sugar and/or fat cravings.  Prioritizing sleep and stress management has also been critical in weight maintenance and in healing in general.

How do you feel now about the unhealthy, sick years you had?

Conflicted.  I feel mournful and frustrated that twenty years ago I didn’t have the nutrition knowledge I have now.  I feel angry knowing that I could have prevented autoimmune disease if I had followed a paleo diet back then and taken more steps to manage stress.  I wonder how being healthier in my pregnancies might have positively influenced my daughters’ health.  I wonder what permanent damage has been done to my body that I will never be able to heal.  I still wish that I could have been thin and elegant in my wedding dress.  But, I am happy to have found a solution when I did, and I try to focus on that positive as much as possible.   I am so much healthier now, and I truly appreciate that.

I really try never to regret anything from my past (that can be tough sometimes, but it’s a worthy goal).  My past experiences are what made me who I am today.  And I like who I am and where I am in life.  I doubt that I would be blogging about lifestyle and nutrition if I hadn’t had those experiences.  So, how can I regret something that now allows me to help, educate and inspire so many?

What changes have you noticed in your family since you have changed their diet? Did they come to paleo willingly or reluctantly? How did you manage the transition?

I followed a paleo diet on my own in the household for several months before trying to transition my family.  They transitioned slowly, first to gluten-free, then to grain-free, then to primal/lacto-paleo, then to full paleo (legumes were easy to get rid of in our household).  It took about six months.  They relied very heavily on paleo baking in the beginning, but we have phased out most of it over time (my oldest daughter still eats paleo bread most days with her breakfast, which is my next target).  We have seen health improvements in the whole family.  My oldest daughter has more energy, better behavior, and sleeps better.  My youngest daughter had obstructive sleep apnea caused by a malformation in her larynx and aggravated by acid reflux and inflammation.  She went from having apnea events several times most nights to now only having it once every few weeks (more frequent during viral infections).  My husband didn’t really have any health problems, so it’s hard to pinpoint specific improvements in him.  His digestion is better, which is probably the biggest difference for him.

What about your husband? Did he jump onboard? How did he react and how did you get his support/manage with his reaction?

In the beginning, my husband made a statement about how he was not giving up his bread and cereal.  Of course, I do all the shopping and the cooking and quickly found some great ways to make paleofied versions of his staples, which helped tremendously.  Plus, I’m a very good cook and he soon realized that eating paleo was still going to taste good.  He doesn’t even remember saying that now and swears that he was on board from the beginning.

Apart from yoga, what exercise do you do? Did you manage to reset your set point with sprinting?

Ugh. Sprinting.  No, that didn’t end up working for me.  I lost my enthusiasm for it and found myself dreading my workouts.  And my philosophy on activity is that you have to enjoy it.  I love my yoga classes and look forward to them.  I feel so great during and after.  That is something sustainable for me.  My schedule this fall changed and I can no longer get to all three of my regular classes each week, so I’ve been replacing that third yoga class with a “pure muscle” class instead (basic full body weight lifting workout).  I don’t love it, but I do like that I can see myself getting stronger.  I’d rather do more yoga though.  I also walk at least a couple of times per week, either going for a family hike (typically fairly rigorous) or walking the mile uphill pushing my youngest in the stroller to pick my oldest up at school (and then the much slower walk back downhill returning home), which we try to do twice per week.  I also play fairly actively with my kids and do some gardening.  I would love to do more but can’t seem to find a way of integrating more activity with my schedule in a sustainable way.

What are your favorite paleo recipes?

My favorite recipes that I actually make over and over again in my home are:
Pomegranate Molasses-Glazed Salmon
Greek-Inspired Slow-Roasted Leg of Lamb
Egg-Free, Tomato-Free (Hidden Liver) Paleo Meatloaf
Paleo Shrimp Chow Mein
Paleo Chicken Pad Thai
Honey-Garlic Chicken Wings
Offal (But Not Awful) Stew
Chicken Bone Broth (Revisited)
Honey-Candied Ginger
Pumpkin Spice Dehydrator Cookies (AIP-friendly)

How do you handle entertaining and eating away from home?

Typically, I host most of our get-togethers, which I love doing because then I’m in control of the food (and I like cooking).  For any meal or party that I host, I will keep everything paleo.  I do typically make paleo foods that are more broadly appealing (sweeter cookies than I normally make, for example, or roasts with lots of side veggies so no one misses dinner rolls and mashed potatoes — and I save the beef cheek, lamb’s liver, and pork trotters for other occasions). When we get invited to other people homes, I mention our food requirements to the host and always offer to bring something that we can eat to contribute to the meal/snacks etc.  If it’s a potluck, I always bring something that will satisfy our family just in case there really isn’t anything else on the table that we can participate in.  I also relax my food standards for my kids, who have gluten intolerances, but can handle small occasional doses of non gluten-containing grains, dairy, and legumes.  I think part of getting through these events is figuring out where the line that you won’t cross is (for me it’s nightshades, grains and legumes; but for my husband and kids, it’s just gluten).

It also helps dramatically to be able to say “No,” at least sometimes.  My kids don’t sleep in, so I use their young ages and early bedtimes as an excuse to skip out on many evening social events (which helps me get to bed at a good time throughout the holidays too!).  Of course, we don’t say no to everything and sometimes a babysitter is required.  Being a team with my husband helps because if we do go out in the evening, we’re usually both tired the next day (some parents take turns so the other can rest, but we typically team up and do everything together).  It also helps that we both tend to prefer quiet, so the activities that we plan are low-key things like family hikes, trips to the playground, building a fire in the fireplace, and finding board games that two adults, a nearly 6-year old and a 3-year old can all play together.

What would you say to anyone considering the autoimmune protocol? What is the best advice you can give them?

Plan ahead.  Spend a day or two cooking and see if you can fill your freezer with AIP-friendly foods (like broth, soups, stews, homemade sausage, precooked meats).  Having foods easily available to you is one of the most important things you can do to set yourself up for success.  Don’t forget the healing foods like broth, fish, grass-fed meat and coconut oil.  And make sure to eat organ meat!  Also, don’t forget the importance of sleep and stress management.  The better you are able to optimize sleep and stress management, the faster you will heal and all this work that you are putting into your diet will pay off.

Don’t feel frustrated or discouraged if the autoimmune protocol isn’t an instant fix.  Many people need some time to heal internally before they notice a dramatic difference in their symptoms.  Try to stick to the strictest version of the AIP for 2-3 months before tweaking.  I also recommend finding a paleo-savvy functional medicine practitioner to work with if at all possible.  Micronutrient deficiencies and food sensitivities can be confounding factors and these aren’t easy to identify on your own.

Remember that you are not alone.  There is an entire community out there of people who found the paleo diet through frustration with autoimmune disease (who are then frustrated that they have to give up eggs and coffee).  If you need a little support, you are always welcome to drop by my Facebook wall and leave a message or ask a question.

Guest Post by Angie Alt: Autoimmunity, AIP, & Family Life

November 27, 2012 in Living with Autoimmune Disease

Angie Alt is wife, mother, world traveler & blogger.  She’s also a warrior in the autoimmunity war.  Angie confronts three autoimmune disorders each day, including Celiac Disease, with powerful management techniques like AIPaleo & the Paleolithic lifestyle.  She blogs regularly about the emotional side of tackling autoimmunity, adopting Paleo, and how it impacts her, her family, & their way of life.  You can read more by Angela Alt at her blog and connect with her on Facebook.

I’ve been on a long, looong journey with autoimmunity.  It started about 12 years ago and in February of this year, I believe I finally got the full picture when I was diagnosed with Celiac Disease (in addition to two other previously diagnosed autoimmunes.)  I’ve been a mother that whole time and married for seven of those years.  My entire autoimmune journey has been conducted with a family at my side.  I’ve been thinking a lot recently about how chronic illness (as autoimmune disorders often lead to) and management strategies, like AIP, impact family life.

 As anyone with an autoimmune disorder knows, the level of illness changes over time.  At points I was keenly aware that something was wrong as I struggled with flares of painful and confusing symptoms and at other times, things would seem to have completely disappeared.  For me, the last three years were the most extreme and the rollercoaster ride was grueling not only for me, but also for my husband and daughter.

 My sickest years coincided with our family living in West Africa for my husband’s work.  The bewildering, irregular symptoms were virtually impossible to nail down there and resulted in three medical evacuations.  Even more disheartening, I found little to no help from the mainstream medical community each time I returned to the U.S.   It was intensely stressful and frightening for all of us.  I felt ashamed and guilty for putting my husband and young daughter through such traumatic events over and over.  As my shame and guilt grew, so did my emotional distance from the two people who cared about me most.

 Last October, it became clear that I had to return to the U.S. permanently and dedicate myself to finding an answer.  It meant that my illness was effectively ending my husband’s work abroad.  While he knew this was the right decision, it was a complicated transition.  Quite obviously, it was hard on our marriage and parenting.   None of it helped my guilt and shame.  I blamed myself for putting my family in such a spot, especially as I saw doctor after doctor and still got no answers.

 On the other side, my husband felt helpless.  It was clear to him that I was steadily becoming sicker, but without clear answers he did not know how to address the situation.  He was privately afraid of what might be wrong, but nervous to express his fears.  As he struggled to balance his career and role in the family, with the pressures of taking care of my needs, he became insecure about how to label it for our family and friends.  I had previously been a solace for him, but now I was a source of anxiety.  His guilt and shame over these negative emotions also grew and widened the gulf between us.

 That “in-between” was inhabited by our daughter.  Naturally, we did everything possible to shield her from what we could and help her roll with the punches where we couldn’t.  Nonetheless, autoimmunity sometimes looms over a whole family, touching every member.  She ended up attending multiple schools for the third and fifth grades, in large part due to our attempts to discover and treat my illness.  We celebrated her 10th birthday just days after I got out of the hospital (with chronic appendicitis and endometriosis complications).  The photos of that day show me with dark circles under my eyes and a gaunt body.  I actually missed her 11th birthday party, because I was again in the hospital, suffering through what I now know was a Celiac crisis.  Most of the time she has been incredibly strong and flexible, but occasionally she tells us how hard it was to walk through such a scary period not knowing what was wrong with me or what her place was supposed to be in it.

 With all of that build up, you can imagine the flood of relief for all of us when I was diagnosed in February.  Knowing was half the battle for our family.  The more I researched, the better we understood the whole autoimmune process and so much that was unresolved for us came together.  In May, after three months of struggling to get my health on track with a traditional gluten-free diet, I discovered The Paleo Mom & started AIP.  It was an incredible breakthrough in my healing.  Not only did we understand autoimmunity, but we also began to understand nutrition’s role as a serious way forward.

 As I have passionately followed it for nearly seven months now, it has changed our lives again.  I’ve come to understand that it will not “cure” me, but it has had amazingly positive impacts on all three of us.  For starters, I am 1,000% healthier than I was a year ago.  Being healthier has allowed me to begin dealing with all the guilt and shame.  Letting that go has meant renewed connection to my husband and daughter.  No more brain fog and debilitating fatigue means we can begin to process together what chronic illness has meant and mend the damaged bridges.

 For my husband, a return of my emotional stability, in particular, has allowed him to open up and our marriage to heal.  It also resulted in him adopting Paleo 80/20 and dropping dairy entirely.  When I discovered a new functional medicine doctor, he saw her too and learned about Vitamin D & magnesium deficiencies he needed to treat.  He’s lost weight and restarted his beloved fitness routines with great results.

 For my daughter seeing me slowly return to health has meant that we can enjoy more time that feels secure and less unpredictable in the face of autoimmune flares.  Gradually, we have worked to deal with each upsetting moment from our past.  And while convincing a 12 year old to drop a SAD diet is not the easiest thing on the planet, she got on board after we finally drew a connection between migraines she has suffered since she was a toddler and gluten.  She is now roughly an 80/20 Paleo girl too, with 99% avoidance of gluten at all times.  The results have been amazing.

 We plan, prepare, and clean up countless meals together every week now.  My daughter has a better understanding of real nutrition than almost any child her age, for that matter, than most adults.  We have a 100% gluten-free household and my family’s support on that non-negotiable has been humbling for me.  We’ve discovered new treats together and stretched ourselves in an effort to heal from the negative impacts of autoimmunity.

 This is actually just a small silver of the way autoimmunity and AIP have altered our family life.  I can’t say that I am 100% able to view this journey as a blessing, but I can say that our bond has actually gotten stronger despite the serious pressures.  We’ve weathered some major storms together as a family and managed to come out on the other side with some significant rewards . . . the gifts of health and each other.

An Actually Fun Fun-Run! My, How Far We’ve Come!

October 16, 2012 in 2012

Last Friday was the big annual fundraiser at my oldest daughter’s school:  the Fun Run.  We collected pledges for the week leading up to the run and my daughter’s goal was to run 15 laps.  I’m not sure where this number came from, but I assume it was a result of discussions in her class.  My daughter became completely emotionally invested in the Fun Run, even donating one dollar of her own hard-earned tooth fairy money to help her classroom reach its collective fundraising goal.

As the day approached, I realized that the time of the actual Fun Run conflicted with my yoga class, which I really didn’t want to miss (my schedule has recently changed so that I can only make 2 classes a week now, so I am fiercely protective of my remaining yoga time).  I tried to gently inform my daughter that I would not be coming to the school to cheer her on (heck, I’m already at the school once a week to eat lunch with her and almost every week to volunteer).  To put it mildly, she was devastated.  She begged and pleaded for me to come.  She attempted to bribe me with promises of perfect behavior.  It got to me and the parental guilt kicked in.

A year ago, when I started the paleo adventure, my daughter was a super low energy kid.  Even when playing outside, the type of play she preferred was quiet, sitting somewhere, digging in the dirt, drawing with chalk, or “telling herself a story” (what she calls imaginative play).  She didn’t enjoy running around or chasing other kids.  And if she did get lured into this kind of play, she tired quickly (and then melted down).  Her lack of energy was one of my biggest concerns leading up to the transition to kindergarten.  So, how could I not support her endeavour to run fifteen whole laps to support her school?  How could I not encourage her enthusiasm for an actual activity?

I conceded to come to the Fun Run on one condition:  that my daughter let me run with her.  When I made this offer, my daughter’s entire face lit up!  She was so excited to have me come and run with her.  This would be even better than me coming to cheer her on!  I think that moment almost trumped Christmas (almost).

I decided to walk the mile to her school.  It would be difficult to find parking anyway, with nearly 300 kindergarten and first graders running at the same time and all of their families coming to support them.  The weather was perfect and the walk was beautiful.

When my daughter’s class arrived on the field, I lined up with them behind her teacher, who also seemed to think it was pretty cool that a mom was running with the class.  I wore my only purple shirt to match the purple spiritwear that the entire kindergarten cohort was wearing.  The teachers and paraprofessionals all ran with their classes, also wearing their purple shirts.  I was the only parent runner at first (parents were allowed to run, I wasn’t being rebellious or anything).  It was so much fun!  And, I made running the Fun Run with my daughter look cool, so that before long, plenty of parents, little siblings and even grandparents were joining their child for a lap.

I couldn’t believe how fast my daughter was!  And how many laps she ran before needing a water break!  After each water break, she would sprint ahead of me so that I had to work hard to catch up.  We ran laps; we walked laps; we had water breaks; we did dance laps, swimming laps, jump laps, cheerleading laps, robot laps, and chase the coach laps.  We did laps with other kids; we did laps with my daughter’s teacher; my daughter and I held hands for most of it (because she wanted to!).  We chatted and we laughed.  Actually, we laughed a whole lot.  It was a very special bonding time and I knew pretty quickly that this was one of the best decisions I’ve made in a long time.  We did 22 laps before we ran out of time (about 45 minutes).  And combined with my brisk walk to and from the school, I got a pretty good work out too!

This may seem like a fairly simple, and even natural thing to many people.  But this level of active play with my kids is not something I could have done a few years ago.  And maybe more than that, it’s not something my daughter would have willingly done a year ago.  She made it through the rest of her school day, and while the afternoon at home was quieter than usual (special treat movie afternoon since her little sister was also exhausted from being at her Mommy’s Morning Out program all day), we made it to bedtime without a major meltdown.  It felt so amazing to do something like this with my daughter, to support her goals, to support her participating in such an active activity, to be healthy enough that doing this was just plain fun.

But, appreciating this moment isn’t just about appreciating being physically healthy and improving my daughter’s health through better nutrition.  It’s about appreciating all the other related choices I’ve made–not just putting my high-powered medical research career on hold to be a stay-at-home mom, but the smaller things.  I made a promise to myself when my daughter started school that I would be involved (even if I didn’t have time to be room mom or be president of the PTA), that I would be a presence in the school and in my daughter’s education.  I also made a promise to myself to have fun with my kids, to play with them, to sometimes drop whatever I was doing to laugh with them.  This day was about putting my child first and about appreciating how awesome that decision turned out to be for me.  Finding balance can be hard for me, so this is kinda a big deal.  I’m not sure I’m explaining this well.  I’m trying to say that I appreciate both being physically healthy, but also having a healthy attitude and approach to life.

My daughter’s teacher told me that my daughter has a joie de vivre that is contagious in her class.  I like to think she gets that from me.  I sometime have a hard time relating to my oldest daughter, but days like this help me see that there are far more similarities between us than differences.  And, in the words of my daughter, that totally rocks!